While no relationship is flawless, it should be a source of joy rather than frustration. When your well-being is jeopardized in any manner – physically, emotionally, or psychologically — a connection is poisonous.
Toxic signs might be subtle, making it difficult to spot the warning flags.
Here are some signs to help you recognize a toxic relationship:
- Toxic communication
Effective communication is the lifeblood of a healthy relationship. If you and your spouse are having difficulty communicating, this could be an indication of toxicity.
Instead of open and mutual dialogue, you have antagonistic and negative interactions. When there is no reciprocal respect during dialogue and instead there is criticism, ranting, name-calling, or sometimes quiet treatment.
- Feeling unsafe
If you feel unsafe or uneasy with your relationship, this is a significant red flag.
It does not have to be merely physical. Do you feel emotionally comfortable with your partner? Can you express yourself freely and without fear? Does your opinion matter? Do you ever try to censor your words when you’re speaking?
If the answer is ‘No,’ this is a symptom of toxicity because a healthy relationship allows people to be themselves and feel comfortable. Partners can be open and honest with each other, both good and bad.
You are not in a healthy relationship if you are constantly in a state of physical and mental unease around your partner.
- Lack of support
In a good relationship, there is a mutual desire to see each other succeed and to have a best friend who will always be there for you through the highs and lows. In a toxic situation, though, you feel the polar opposite.
If every accomplishment becomes a competition and you don’t feel supported or encouraged, you’re in a toxic relationship.
If you’re hesitant or frightened to tell your spouse the good news, possibly because you’re worried about his or her reaction, or if you encounter a wall of negativity every time you’re in celebration mode, it’s time to reevaluate the relationship.
- Controlling behavior
It’s not a healthy relationship if your partner controls all of your actions or if you feel forced to do exactly what you’re told, even if it will affect you — or if you don’t want to.
This behavior may be motivated by jealously or a lack of trust, but it may also indicate a desire for control, both of which can contribute to relationship toxicity.
Because it is a connection between two individuals, it is important for both parties to make decisions together while keeping each other in mind.
- Lack of self-care
Symptoms of a toxic relationship include changes in your own life as well as your partner’s conduct.
Giving up self-care and self-confidence can be an indication that your relationship is unhealthy.
Have you noticed yourself withdrawing from activities you enjoy or caring less about your health and appearance?
This could happen because you are already exhausted by the connection.
- Patterns of disrespect
Disrespect manifests itself in various ways in a toxic relationship.
It can manifest as your partner ignoring your feelings, undermining you, speaking down to you in public, forgetting critical commitments, and being late.
Any of these and other warning indicators should be taken seriously because they may indicate toxicity.
- Feeling drained
If you are continuously exhausted physically and emotionally, your relationship is toxic.
Do you feel you’re giving your all and not receiving anything in return? Do you do the majority of the heavy lifting in the relationship?
It’s not supposed to be; healthy and worthy partnerships need significant work from both parties.
If you’re in a relationship and constantly feel neglected, alone, and lonely, your relationship is unhealthy.
You and your partner have already lost your true closeness and intimate connection.