During an appearance on the “Tonight Show” Tuesday, Michelle Obama spoke about going to marriage counseling to “fix” her husband, former President Barack Obama — but the experience turned out to be a personal eye-opener.
The forever first lady also noted the importance of her sharing the story in her new memoir “Becoming” because she wants “young people to know that marriage is work.”
Hear her explain it via the clip above.
Mrs. Obama said during her experience going through marriage counseling, she thought she was “perfect” but soon learned she also had things to improve on.
“I was one of those wives who thought, ‘I’m taking you to marriage counseling so you can be fixed, Barack Obama.’ Because I was like, ‘I’m perfect.’ I was like, ‘Dr. X, please fix him,’” she said with a smile. “And then, our counselor looked over at me. I was like, ‘What are you looking at? I’m perfect.’”
She continued: “But marriage counseling was a turning point for me, understanding that it wasn’t up to my husband to make me happy, that I had to learn how to fill myself up, and how to put myself higher on my priority list.”
Obama said she wanted to share this particular marital experience in her new memoir because: “There are a lot of young people who look at me and Barack… and they think, ‘Oh, I want those #relationshipgoals,’” Obama said. “But I want young people to know that marriage is work. Even the best marriages require work.”
She concluded: “I don’t want young people to quit the minute they have a hardship. Because I always say, ‘Look, if you’re married for 50 years, and 10 of them are horrible, you’re doing really good.’ Anybody would take those odds.”
The Obamas celebrated their 26th wedding anniversary in October.