Yes! Men are interesting pieces of creation, but you must be careful before you get ruined by them. Unlike women who can suppress their sexual thirst, men cannot and most only come for your cherry.
According to a recent study, seven out of ten men cannot resist sexual temptation, and some men go to the extent of love-conning women like in the above scenario. Brian Okoth highlights some of the ways to identify a man who is coming after you just for s*x.
1. Keep the goodies in the cookie jar
Nowadays, some men feel entitled to sharing your bed after splashing out on one date. But be advised, a few drinks and a cheap meal are not legally binding. The longer you avoid sleeping with a man, the more time he spends learning who you are and you who he is. A man with short-term intentions will find the wait exceedingly tiring and will sooner or later leave you for an easy prey.
2. Pace yourself
Men often feel entitled and arrogant when they see that you are prepared to drop everything to see them at the last minute. No matter how enticing his invitation is, when you accept it on the same day it sends out the message of desperation and easy hunt. Most instances before his invitation, you have plans of going out with your girlfriends, washing your hair… At the beginning of love and passion, your priority should be only you. The man has not yet done enough at this stage to be worthy of being a priority. Show him the tough side of you, and he will chase after you.
3. Never accept a date via text
When a man is a serial texter and fails to call before your first date then, be certain you are a far option; there’s the main girl somewhere whom he spends all his airtime on.
Of course there are exceptions to every rule. However, in most cases this kind of behavior subtly communicates his sole desire of sleeping with you at minimal cost. A text is the minimum effort required to see you when he doesn’t want to face the awkwardness of conducting a conversation if he isn’t interested in your personality. Never entertain a man who does the bare minimum; Kenyan singer Wahu calls them “Vibowow”: they are never serious.
4. Be keen on the language he uses on you
It is your first date with him and this man insists on telling you how hot you are, and not how thoughtful and brilliant your conversations are: this lad only has short term intentions with you.
If he finds a way of ‘sexing up’ every conversation that’s a sure sign he is after that one thing. So hurriedly gulp that bottle of expensive drink he bought you and leave that man alone