in ,

Ladies: Don’t Lose Your Head Just Because He Cheated

Not long ago the country was treated to a not so peculiar incident where a woman in Migori smashed her husband’s four wheeled “babe” after she caught him sampling another dish.

Well to begin with, having been on the ground, I am privy to a little more detail. Rumour has it that the scorned woman had not seen her husband in days, and that the man of the house had not been providing for his family.

The question is, did she know her husband was keeping another woman? Yes she did, only that she did not know where the two love birds were holed up until a friend tipped her off. I am sure you watched the rest of the story on TV.

Now, I have said it before, and I will drum it again for anyone who cares to lend an ear; you can never monopolise a man. I am not going to waste this precious space telling men not to keep MKW because they will keep them anyway. My bone of contention is these non-starters who leave their families suffering as they savour other delicacies.

Dear men, cheat if you must. In fact, keep a mistress besides your wife because if anything, it is healthy. However, if you are a man worth his balls, a male who bellows like a bull, and can comfortably be counted as a dume, you would never leave your legitimate wife to lack as you gallivant around with some random woman.

For humanity’s, decency, responsibility and common sense sake, no matter how much dented your marriage might be, provide for her. At least for the sake of the children; make sure she has proper shelter and the children have food. When she and the kids are properly fed, and if you cater for their upkeep, then I do not see why she will follow you to wherever you are doing your stuff and raise mayhem. Unless she is mad.

Women, if he provides everything, would you follow him to MWK’s place to cause drama? For what?! Then tie him to your bed post like a pet, oh yeah. I know I am being brutally honest, but it is fine, I am going tell you the truth anyway. Men are never monogamous, so at some point you have to let this reality sink and learn how to live with it. Some are decent enough not to show they are cheating; some are bold enough to marry the women they are cheating with as second or even third wives; some keep them as official mistresses but most just fornicate around right in your face.


So either walk away or sit put and pray for that God does not allow him to ‘whore’ on another farm. Also kindly ask the Lord to ensure he has the sanity to wear ‘gumboots’ should he decide to wade in festering swamps anyway. By the way, one way of disorienting a cheating man is proving to him that you know and going about your life like it does not matter. That is torturous enough for him to stop.

Of course that person he has saved as “Taxi guy” on his phone is actually his other woman. True Caller will give you her name as “Wairimu”. So, the next time “Taxi” calls at night, hand him the phone and tell him “Wairimu” wants to talk to you. Then go ahead and warm his bath water and smile lovingly at him; that will scare the s**t out of him! But if you begin to shout the whole roof down, he will not bear the screaming and might decide to spend the night with the “Taxi.”

So empower yourselves ladies. Take that loan to further your education or to start a business. If he wants a loan, why can’t he take one himself? Why do women allow themselves to be so gullible? He curls you in his arms, whispers petty nothings in your ear and the next morning you fill a loan form for him. So while you are busy servicing the loan, he is using the money to rent a self-contained house and service a baby-faced campus girl.

And keep your job so that when push comes to shove, you can take care of yourself and the children. If he gets too randy and disrespectful, if he abuses you physically and otherwise, walk away with your head up high. But how can you do that when he is the reason you go to the toilet? Do something with your life and show him that life goes on. Sue him for child support though, it took joint effort to get them, so bringing up those tots must be a joint effort too.


Written by How Africa

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *


This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

High Heels Shoe

Women: How Swaying Your Assets on High Heels Could Cause Cancer


Checkout Five Habits You Must Avoid in the Office