According to Jada Pinkett who has been married for 22 years now, the romantic and pragmatic aspects of love and marriage need to coexist for the relationship to work out fine.
Jada Pinkett wrote on social media:
“I had an epiphany the other day. I had to call Will and say, ‘You know what? I have to thank you for enduring my rage.’ It made me realize how durable love must be because we don’t have all the answers in the beginning.”
“Having this realistic outlook working alongside your desire for a fairytale relationship creates a beautiful balance as opposed to unpalatable reactions that may hurt your relationship beyond repair.
“I realized how unmet standards of romantic love often justified it to turn into a cold heart that many times can fuel hateful and brutal actions of revenge and manipulation towards someone you ‘say’ or ‘said’ you loved”.
“My romantic standard of love was all that mattered and if it wasn’t met … there was more than hell to pay. My romantic standards were feeding my ego whether they were met or unmet.
I experienced some very hard lessons (and continue to do so) that formed the decision that my ego and my heart could not share the same space,” She concluded.