Arguments don’t have to be hurtful, but they can easily turn that way if you’re not careful. Luckily, there are several techniques and tricks you can try, which will allow you to get your point across without turning the discussion into a full-on fight. The ability to argue effectively is actually a great skill to learn, and can come in handy in a wide variety of situations, giving you the confidence to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Remember to pick your battles though – some things just aren’t worth arguing over!
Play fair. Odds are you know exactly how to push the other person’s buttons, but it’s important to resist if you want to have a civil argument. Resolve that no matter how upset he or she makes you, you will not say the one thing you know would push the argument over the edge.
Respect the other person. Respect what the other person has to say. An argument has to be two-sided; if you fail to hear the other side out, they will return the gesture and not listen to you. Refuting a person’s opinion is fine, but refusing to hear it makes a debate pointless.Loading...
- You should always be respectful when arguing with another person. Remember, that’s what they are: another person. Treat them the way that you would want to be treated. Don’t immediately dismiss their ideas just because they don’t agree with you. Listen to them.
Attack ideas, not the person they’re attached to. When you argue with someone, you should remember to only attack that person’s ideas, not the person themself. That means you shouldn’t call the person stupid for thinking what they think, and you shouldn’t devolve to attacks on their physical appearance either.
Admit when you are wrong. When you make a mistake, admit it. Admit that you misunderstood or were misinformed. Being wrong doesn’t make you a lesser person but admitting you’re wrong does make you the bigger person.
Apologize when appropriate. If you’ve hurt someone or your argument caused problems, you should apologize. Be the adult in the situation and take responsibility for your actions.
Be open to new ideas. The best way to argue positively is to be open to new ideas. You don’t want to be wrong in an argument again, do you? Open yourself to the possibility of a better way of thinking or new, fascinating information.