In terms of sanity and peace of mind, this is probably the worst type of boss to have—someone who thinks it’s appropriate to berate or belittle you in public, treating you like a child, and not an employee. This is the boss who’s yelling, ‘You screwed up!” in front of your entire department, literally leaving you in tears.
If you’re stuck with a verbally abusive boss who thinks it’s OK to humiliate you, you should definitely approach HR. But if nothing changes, you might just have to cut your losses and get out.
Occasionally you will run into an unethical type of boss who’s cheating, lying and stealing—but it becomes even worse when they ask you to do it. It’s one thing to witness someone else’s bad behavior, but when it’s expected of you, that’s when you may have to make some tough decisions.
Faced with this kind of ethical dilemma, there’s usually no choice too but to leave, One friend of mine was in this position, and it had a terrible impact on him personally. He was tired, depressed and miserable. Ultimately he quit and found another job, but that experience affected him for a long time.
Micromanagers are more common than yellers and liars, and most of us have run into at least a little bit of this from a manager. This person may not be screaming and may not be lying, but they are watching your every move. They don’t trust you. They don’t necessarily understand what you do every day, but they’re asking you for certain things that you feel are unnecessary.
You don’t always have to run for the hills if you’re stuck with one. You can try to manage your manager by anticipating their needs. Be proactive. If they ask you constantly for a report before every Friday meeting, give them the report Thursday night, so they don’t ask you the question. Basically, use their attention for detail as a way to make sure you’re on top of your game. Once you prove to them that you’re 150% “on it,” they may even relax a little.
The jealous saboteur
If you keep raising your hand for new projects or assignments and your boss never says yes, takes credit for your work or refuses to let you further your skills with extra education, he or she might be actively trying to thwart your career path.
That’s a huge red flag, because as your boss, that’s one of their main purposes. Your boss is supposed to support you and see you grow.
The best way to get around this type of boss is to find a mentor at work who will support you. If your micromanager is not providing tools and resources for you to manage your career, you need to find other ways to do it. Find an ally within your company. Maybe approach a leader within another group, or your boss’s boss, so you can talk about your career growth and where you’re headed.”
At the end of the day, it’s up to you to change your situation, whether that means finding a new job or making some moves at the one you have. You can’t change these bosses, you can only change how you react to them.”