While growing up as a kid, my old guy often told me that whenever an old man offered a piece of advice, it was not because he disliked you, but rather because he may have experienced similar situations over and over again.
Those who listen to the advice often turn out well, but those who don’t, end up living in misery. Of course the losers, already on the downward spiral, will say: ‘let me live my life when I am young’.
Let us do a little math. What percentage of your youth is adult life? In my time it was 15-24 years, which is why the society expected a woman to get married by 24.
Bi Mswafari couldn’t have been more right when she said that it’s difficult for beautiful women to get married nowadays, because most of them think they’re God’s gift to the world.
Women with beautiful faces tend to believe that they can leave a man sitting in a restaurant, and get another before they even reach the door. True, this will happen, but are you sure the next man who takes you will marry you? The answer is usually no. In fact, you only gradually move from a wife material to a social trophy.
Trust me, just like the English Premier League trophy, different players will fight to use a woman.
The kawaida ones were spared. In Kenya, where wife inheritance was the norm in some communities, men died after inheriting widows.
Wise old men usually remind young lads of a saying that goes: ‘when choosing a wife, don’t go for a very beautiful woman as she will kill you with stress before your days’.
The belief is that internal beauty is what we should look for in a woman, but men say, albeit jokingly, that they don’t have X-ray machines with which to tell the inner glow.
Men have been advised to do background checks on a woman’s family and upbringing. This is particularly important because while beauty fades, character is permanent.
I saw a number of beautiful women growing up back in the day, and trust me, they never had character, and today they live in misery. Some of them tried to reform, much later in life, but age was not on their side.
Young women out there should know that beauty fades, and it’s not bad to be beautiful, but that is the gift God has given you.
Like any other gift, use it wisely. Remember, beauty is like a drug, it can harm you if you don’t control it.
Don’t let your beauty turn you into a laughing stock in old age.