UK based Nigerian Gay rights activist, Bisi Alimi continues the countdown to his wedding while recalling the very first time he tried on women clothing and how liberating it now is to him. Read below.
Day 13 of 30 days to my wedding of 30 things to be grateful for. The first time I put on a dress was at university of Lagos. I was drafted to act a role at the last minute as the character did not turn up. I am sure @denrele_edun will remember this event.
We were acting for Atiku’s wife while she was visiting. Many times after that, I have dressed up. I dressed up hosting many gay parties in#Lagos. In 1999, as a very young 24years old, I won the glamorous Miss Gay Lagos. It was an honour. As a man (yes, just in case some of you are confused) wearing a dress and heels and stockings is liberating for me. I am not a woman and I do not want to be a woman. When I wear dresses, I wear them as a man and this is why it is very liberating for me. It connects with my vulnerability. As an African man, there is an expectation of what it means to be a man. Wearing a dress is also a statement of fuck you to patriarchy. I don’t do conformity. I live in my head and in my world. I would go naked and take a picture of it if I feel so good about it. Then came last year and I met @msposhp and she changed my world. She made me understand that beauty has no gender and a dress is a dress is a dress. The joy I feel when I take on the character of Ms Posh is overwhelming. She takes me to another level. Also when@obehinoir makes her up, she transforms into this beautiful woman I have been dying to meet and know. Ms Posh is an act, she is only real in my head and in your imagination. That imagination if you let it loose will change the way you see women and treat women. As a man in a dress, I have experience sexual harassment and verbal abuse and to me it is interesting how just a dress changed the way people treat me. Unfortunately, Ms Posh is not invited to me wedding, but I am sure, she will be standing next to me in my head when I say ‘I Do’ to my man.#samesexmarriage #samesexwedding#30daysofthankfulness#equalmarriage #weddingday#dragqueen