It’s never easy to realize that it is time to end your relationship. Even if it seems like the right decision, that does not make it an easy one. There is nothing more damaging than being in an unhealthy relationship, but sometimes you need to be removed from that relationship to see how unhealthy it was. Your partner holds too much of an impact on your life going forward, to be with someone that is not making you feel like your best self.
For some people in an unhealthy relationship, they may feel their partner is constantly weighing them down. At least when they are sleeping, you know you will not get into a fight. It is totally natural to want to have time to yourself or your own space. Yet if you find yourself actively excited about when your partner is not around or interacting with you, then what are you doing there? Make sure that your partner coming home from work is one of your favourite parts of the day. Not the part where they left you alone
The best thing in my entire life is my relationship. When I think about the future, there is nothing more exciting than knowing the role she will play in it. For some relationships, the future is not a positive place to think about. They may have found themselves living a future that they do not necessarily desire, but feel comfortable with. Your relationship should excite you, and if does not, it may be time to look at why that is.
Now let me clarify, if you are unsure about marriage after your first date, that’s okay! Some relationships go on for years and both parties are still undecided on if they should be married. There are some questions in life that you should ask with absolute certainty and know the answer. Asking someone to marry you is one of those questions. It should be so clear to you and to your partner that marriage is the right decision. It should be a decision that was so clearly communicated that you should have absolutely no doubts about your partner. If you have been together for years and are still unsure if you want to spend your life with them, then what sign on earth are you waiting for? You do not need to propose to have a productive talk about your future.
A proper sex life is absolutely crucial to making any relationship work. If you and your partner only have sex once every 2 months? Great, as long as you both have communicated that you only want it that often. A relationship with a mismatched libido is destined to have countless problems that evolve beyond the bedroom. If sex is not a topic that you and your partner can communicate about comfortably, do your best to work on that. It is too important to leave unattended without constant communication.
They are a great deal of work, but they can be the most rewarding thing you will ever experience. Some days are tough, but on those days you need to love your partner all the more. One thing that keeps a relationship running is knowing that your partner will put in the time and effort to help you when you need it. It is going to get tiring if you feel like you are always putting in the effort, and that your partner does not care.
3. You Do Not “Like”Your Partner
Everyone has a different communication style. You need to hope that your partner’s meshes with yours. If you find yourself constantly bickering with each other, you need to ask yourself if this is normal. Everyone has a different way they express love, and there is no value in staying in a relationship where you do not feel appreciated. It is even more difficult when you try to communicate issues, but they fall on deaf ears. A lack of communication can be displayed as a lack of effort in the relationship. Once both those elements manifest, your relationship may be hard to save.
Do you love your partner more today then you did yesterday? Ideally you do. Love for your partner should grow every day, as you both constantly find different ways to show love and appreciation for one another. Relationships that get older may run into issues if you take each other for granted. Some relationships may struggle every day, but because they have been together for years or even decades, it may be harder to leave. It is even harder to be with someone that does not love you like you deserve. Never use length of time together to be a justification for actions that you know are unacceptable.